Three Cs Therapy & Coaching

Kathy Robbins, LICSW, PCC
Psychotherapist • Life Coach

923 Route 6A, Unit T, Yarmouth Port, MA 02675

Phone (508) 744-7400
Mobile (508) 274-1067

Kathy Robbins, LICSW, PCC is both a licensed psychotherapist and a certified life coach. That is what separates her from the pack. Often times clients hit on therapeutic issues in coaching and most coaches don’t have the training or skills to assess or recognizes these issues as they arise. On the other hand, Kathy can bring empowering coaching skills into therapy sessions when it is appropriate for the client to move forward beyond the healing stage into the action stage.

Would You Benefit from Having a Coach? Or a Therapist? Or Both?

What’s the Difference Between Coaching and Therapy??

There are many differences between coaching and therapy. The following table, adapted from CTI’s Organization and Relationship System Coaching Series, provides a sampling of these differences.

Therapy         Coaching
           
Focuses on healing and understanding         Focuses on evolving and manifesting potential; healing is a side-effect
Emphasizes past and present         Emphasizes present and future
Is insight-oriented         Is action and ‘being’ oriented
Is problem-oriented         Is solutions-oriented
Explores genesis of behaviors that create low self-esteem         Explores actions and behaviors that manifest high self-esteem
Asks “why?” and “from where?”         Asks “what’s next / what now?”
Works mainly with internal issues         Works mainly with external issues
Accountability is not commonly expected         Accountability is commonly expected
Uses therapy techniques         Uses coaching skills


THRIVE: Don’t Just Survive… Life Coaching 101

By Joshua Krammes
August 2006
Discover the Possibilities
REPRINTED ARTICLE FROM The Enterprise Newspapers

Life challenges each and every one of us with every passing moment. There are always places to be, things to do, errands, checklists, calls to make – everything that takes us away from what we would rather do with our time:

Paint. Write. Start the second career. Retirement. See our children and grandchildren more. Take a long drive along the coast or up into the mountains. Take a hike with our dog. Wake up a bit earlier every day for that walk on the beach. Have a cup of coffee with that old friend we constantly say we are going to make time for, but haven’t done so in too many years.

Goals are different for each and every one of us, and that’s the beauty of life – we all get to choose for ourselves what our dreams are and we each get to think about how to achieve those dreams.

(I’m reminded of a Stephen Sondheim musing that strikes me as being completely appropriate to the trying times we all live in. – “Dreams come true, not free.” Oh, how true.)

Then, an interesting thing happened to me – I was asked if I would write an article about “life coaching,” so I set out to find people who could help me understand it from a true-life perspective, and what life coaching was all about.

I found out someone I knew of, but had not met before, had gone to a life coach, and we decided to meet at a local coffee shop. She couldn’t wait to tell me about how a life coach changed everything for her. Years ago, a friend had introduced her to the idea of life coaching, and some initial hesitation, she decided to go ahead and explore it.

As she told her story, of the courage it took her internally to begin the process, the process itself, and her overall feeling of achievement, I could feel her honesty, and could understand her excitement. It was easy to see how positive her experience with a life coach was for her, and it was inspiring.

She told me of great challenges in her life, some of the terrible pain she had endured, and how some of her experiences drove her to a place where she just knew there was a better life to be had, and she needed to explore how to find that. Her bravery in telling me – a relative stranger – made me believe there was something much greater happening here than what I initially suspected. Her comfort in experiencing emotions high and low while doing so further engaged me to dig deeper, to find out what more is really to this “life coaching thing”.

We talked at length about some of life’s major aspects that we too often find ourselves defined by – our relationships, our career, our age, our mindset, and our overall physical health and energy levels. She explained to me about identifying values for each, and how her life coach not only helped her identify hers, but also helped her create and implement procedures to enhance her situation. Eventually the procedures are developed to help those engaged with a life coach reach the goal of a better life.

Having a background in psychology, and experiencing myself a life long journey of self-actualization, and intrinsic and constant need to achieve a better state of being, and the desire to further enhance my life and those lives of my fellowman, I decided to keep this interesting conversation going.

I called Kathy Robbins of West Barnstable – a life coach herself. (Three Cs Coaching and Therapy: Commitment, Change & Celebration).

Ms. Robbins is an accomplished professional, having served in many capacities in her life in the mental health field. She is also a wonderful person, with a heart as big as Buzzards Bay, and the desire to change the world, one life at a time.

A licensed independent clinical social worker and a certified professional co-active coach, Ms. Robbins began to explain to me the differences between traditional therapy and the exercises that are explored when someone comes to see a life coach. One of the main reasons Ms. Robbins decided to engage fully in life coaching was that she felt through traditional means of therapy, there was always a diagnosis forced upon the patient, and it was the therapist’s duty to bring the patient through a process to “fit” them.

To coin her operating phrase about the people she encountered in her professional experiences over the years, she mentioned that, “people what to thrive, not just survive,” and that it was her life’s mission to help people achieve their goals.

Through exercises in which she has clients identify their truest dreams and goals in life, Ms. Robbins then helps them put a plan of action together focused on how to achieve those goals. Again, it is different for every person she sees.

In several cases, where a group dynamic is truly beneficial, Ms. Robbins meets with small groups (usually less than a dozen) of some of her clients who have been through her life-coaching sessions previously. Usually they meet for at least six months, oftentimes a year or more, during which they introduce a support method for everyone in the group and help one another stay the course.

There is a way for our life’s dreams to be realized.

In speaking with other therapists, I learned that more and more today they are realizing that the traditional process of determining a diagnosis, a treatment, and then “fixing” a client just isn’t practical. What is most effective is finding a proactive solution to assist a client to empower themselves to find a better life – from within.

Ms. Robbins expressed that this was one of the main reasons her practice has been successful. True to her own mantra, her business model thrives, rather than survives. She mentioned to me that most of her clients come in, relieved and proud, to have made the step of getting involved with a life coach. Generally, she has been able to appreciate a great amount of success, because the perceptions in others’ minds simply are different than that of those encountered in therapy.

I believe that my friend from the coffee shop, who introduced me to the concept of life coaching, couldn’t agree more. In my conversation with her, she was one of those individuals who you could just tell wouldn’t be the same without some of the experiences she’s had, including those with her life coach.

She, as do many people who engage a life coach, had remained in steady contact with her group, which meets as often as every week or twice a month. In continuing to work toward achieving her own goals, she is assisting others who are also committed to doing the same.

It is an experience based purely on self-desire to have a better life, and nothing more.

As I sit back and enjoy the pleasure of being in the good company of the “dream-chasing, make-your-life-the-best-it-can-be” club, it is clear that ability of life coaches to help all of us to continue to thrive, rather than just survive, is more evident and powerful today than ever.

Through exercises we engage in and the constant support of others in our life, after talking to my friend in the coffee shop as well as Ms. Robbins, I realize it’s really up to us. The goals and dreams we want so badly are all within our reach.

There are those out there every day, trying to create programs that will assist anyone to realize their dreams, and put a plan of action together to actually achieve it, rather than dream it. With dedication and patience, they will walk with you, helping you to get where you want to be.
Because that’s truly what this is all about – having a better life. Chasing all of your dreams, and realizing that we each can have that state of constant happiness and comfort in who we are, what we are doing, and all the trappings of a rewarding and wonderful life, no matter what stage we are experiencing today.

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